You’ve been piecing together self-care strategies to try and manage the guilt, loneliness, and resentment you feel because of the state of your relationship with her, but something’s missing.
No matter how much journaling you do, how many therapy sessions you attend, or how often you meditate, you know deep down inside you don’t have the skills, strategies, or support to free yourself from the pain her abuse and neglect has caused you...and what might happen if you don’t break free is scary as hell to think about.
You need a safe space to engage in raw, vulnerable self-discovery, be equipped with the practical tools to rescue your authentic self from beneath all the shit you’ve been through, and start the process of transforming into the woman you wish your mom was.
You need the Release.
Licensed Therapist, Trauma Coach, & Mother-Daughter Trauma Survivor
By now, you’ve probably binged watched all my Instagram videos and know my story like the back of your hand. But just in case…
I grew up in the projects and was raised by a single mother who started mothering at 13 when she was abandoned by her mom, forced to drop out of middle school, and left to raise six of her siblings.
By the time I - her eldest - came around, she was sick of parenting. A shitload of unprocessed complex traumas (including a disastrous relationship with her mom) manifested as addictions to pale lagers, caffeine, tobacco, and hating me.
My childhood was confusing to say the least. I was verbally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically abused for...existing.
She made almost everything I did seem like it was the worst thing in the world and almost everything I said seem like it was a lie. As a result, I entered adulthood questioning my sanity, my character, and my salvation, and the brokenness of low self-worth led me to friendships and relationships that perpetuated my feelings of guilt, hopelessness, and fear.
And what made things worse was that everybody I opened up to about the challenges I was facing within our relationship (including therapists) said things like “But that's your mom,” convincing me to try harder at loving her which only caused me to become even more broken.
That longing I once felt to be seen, heard, and understood is exactly why I’ve spent almost a decade using my clinical expertise and personal background to create platforms for Black women to live in their authentic truth, break generational curses, and experience real transformation. And it's the passion behind my life-changing healing event, The Release.
IN THE PRESS
January 28-30, 2021
Three full days in the heart of Nashville, TN, intentionally focused on bonding with other curse-breaking Black women, gaining the confidence and courage to live authentically, and learning practical ways to manage your mother-daughter trauma manifestations and reclaim your identity & worth.
What's in store for you?
10+ interactive mainstage content sessions facilitated by me and designed to:
Awaken your emotional vulnerability, deepen your introspection, and strengthen your courage to heal & thrive
Engage you in the powerful, curse-breaking activities I’ve used to free myself and my clients from the pain of abuse and neglect
Help you craft customized approaches to navigating tension, distance, & estrangement in your relationship with your mom
Liberating self-care exercises led by game-changing wellness experts who will teach you holistic ways to relieve your tension, surrender your stress, and embrace your freedom
Dynamic panels featuring Black women who have conquered their mother-daughter trauma and are thriving in their mental and emotional health, careers, & relationships
Unique opportunities to bond with other curse-breaking Black women who won’t make you over-explain or justify your trauma
"My life has transformed."
My life has literally transformed from working with Dylesia. I’ve learned how to speak to myself with kindness and how to pull myself out of depressive/anxious episodes. She models how to set boundaries and she’s teaching me how to do the same in my life and make decisions without fear. She’s changed my whole outlook on life.
the Release is for you if...
You’re a pro at playing small, dimming your light, and putting everyone besides yourself first because your mom conditioned you to believe you weren’t good enough to be the center of anyone’s world.
You struggle to ask others for help and can’t wrap your mind around the idea of God being a provider because you’ve always had to fend for yourself since your mom only looked out for you when it benefitted her.
You love from a distance because years of psychological abuse and emotional neglect from your mom have conditioned you to believe that you’re incapable of being understood and that there’s something wrong with you that makes people reject you.
Your mom’s verbal abuse shattered your confidence, so you’ve delayed your personal and professional goals for years due to questioning your deservingness and lacking trust in your decision-making skills.
Your mom seemed to find joy in physically abusing you and between the flashbacks and triggers, you find it painful to love your body or let anyone else.
You’re scared, lost, and have nowhere to turn because every person you’ve confided in has told you “you only get one mom.”
"This is profound and unlike anything I've ever experienced."
I’m so glad to be a part of this group of women. It’s profound and unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. I hope Dylesia never stops doing what she’s doing.
$697 or 6 x $145
$1197 or 6 x $245
Live virtual access to The Release + 7-day access to replays ($5760 value)
Membership in The Cursebreakers Club, a private digital community for Black women recovering from mother-daughter trauma with customized weekly discussion topics and members-only programs, events, & trainings
Virtual Attendee Kit via mail
All the perks of General Admission +
Live virtual access to Reparenting Your Inner Child Workshop ($2400 value)
Pre-Conference Girls’ Night
Vulnerability Lab ($480 value)
Deluxe Virtual Attendee Kit via mail
How do I get started?After you click the "Join Our Tribe" button, you'll be redirected to our Consultation Form which allows us to gather more information about you, your preferences and needs, and (if necessary) conduct an insurance benefits verification prior to contacting you with a therapist assignment. Please complete the form and a member of our Client Care Team will reach out within 24 business hours.
What treatment modalities will be used?Our therapists use an ecletic mix of modalities from Cognitive Behavior Therapy to Narrative Therapy, Play Therapy, and Interpersonal Psychotherapy techniques. They also each receive two hours of individual and group continuing education per week, designed to provide them with an opportunity to case consult with senior therapists and peers, and to introduce them to therapeutic perspectives that can be added to their toolbox. Blending modalities is effective for helping our clients challenge and reframe maladaptive thoughts, discover affirmation and purpose beneath the blame, conflict and disconnection in their stories, and navigate transitions, disputes, and deficits in emotionally beneficial ways.
How often will I meet with my therapist?Weekly or bi-weekly sessions are most effective. A lengthier duration between sessions can impact the rate at which your goals are met.
How long are sessions?The length of your session depends on the type of service you are receiving (i.e. individual therapy vs couple/dyadic counseling, etc.). On our Consultation Form (accessible upon clicking "Join Our Tribe"), you will find a list of our session types and their associated lengths.
How much does each session cost?The cost of your session depends on the type of service you are receiving and if you are using your insurance benefits and might be responsible for a small co-pay, or are paying privately and will be responsible for the entire amount. If you are using insurance to pay for services, a member of our Client Care Team will conduct a benefits verification after receiving your Consultation Form (accessible upon clicking "Join Our Tribe"). If you are enrolling as a self-pay client, please find a list of our session types and their associated costs on our Consultation Form.
Can I use insurance to pay?We currently accept Aetna, Anthem, Blue Cross Blue Shield, CareFirst, and United/Optum insurances. Our clients who are insured by other carriers often elect to receive superbills to submit to their insurance company for reimbursement. This means that if you are insured by carrier we do not accept, your insurance company will not send payment directly to us for the sessions that you attend with but you may be able to receive reimbursement using your “Out-of-Network” benefits.
How do I get reimbursed for “Out-of-Network” claims?During onboarding, a member of our Client Care Team will contact your insurance company to determine if you are eligible for reimbursement and if so, at what rate. They will also provide you with information about how to submit claims through the process your insurance company outlines.
I don't have an insurance you all accept. Why shouldn't I just go to a therapist that accepts my insurance?Therapist shopping is like dating! It's up to you how much time and energy you'd like to put into finding "the one." Therapists who accept your insurance might be unable to provide you with anything other than an opportunity to unproductively vent.